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Dec. 20th, 2013 12:14 pmOther surprising things about becoming a parent:
1) The fact that I wanted to do it again. What the fuck? I mean, I was willing to walk away from this relationship over not having more than one. And then I changed my mind. What?
I don't regret it, though. Rocket is the floppy little flour sack baby of my heart. He's so smiley and wonderful. Love him.
2) The first rule of parenting is not "never wake a sleeping baby". You will have to wake a sleeping baby all the time. The first rule of parenting is "pee when you can". See, this is how it happens. A miracle will occur and the child(ren) will not need you for a moment. Playing alone, sleeping, for some reason you have a minute to yourself and time to do something and you notice that you need to pee but you think "I will just finish this up first." LIES. Just before you're about to finish, there will be screams of pain or hunger or fire or flood or violence and you will need to leap up and go cope. You will not get to finish what you were doing, and now you will have to deal with the next emergency and you never got to pee and god knows when you will now. Go pee when you think of it. Now. Go now.
3) That I can have a child I genuinely adore, would do anything for, would actually give my life for, who often brings joy to my heart, and yet, that there are times when I am so tired, and he has pushed me so far, that I will physically tremble with the effort of restraining the urge to beat his head against the wall until he stops making noise.
I am so, so very lucky that violence wasn't a part of my early training. I know that not everyone is as lucky. So much respect for parents who have to fight their own history on top of the way kids push and push and push you. SO MUCH RESPECT.
1) The fact that I wanted to do it again. What the fuck? I mean, I was willing to walk away from this relationship over not having more than one. And then I changed my mind. What?
I don't regret it, though. Rocket is the floppy little flour sack baby of my heart. He's so smiley and wonderful. Love him.
2) The first rule of parenting is not "never wake a sleeping baby". You will have to wake a sleeping baby all the time. The first rule of parenting is "pee when you can". See, this is how it happens. A miracle will occur and the child(ren) will not need you for a moment. Playing alone, sleeping, for some reason you have a minute to yourself and time to do something and you notice that you need to pee but you think "I will just finish this up first." LIES. Just before you're about to finish, there will be screams of pain or hunger or fire or flood or violence and you will need to leap up and go cope. You will not get to finish what you were doing, and now you will have to deal with the next emergency and you never got to pee and god knows when you will now. Go pee when you think of it. Now. Go now.
3) That I can have a child I genuinely adore, would do anything for, would actually give my life for, who often brings joy to my heart, and yet, that there are times when I am so tired, and he has pushed me so far, that I will physically tremble with the effort of restraining the urge to beat his head against the wall until he stops making noise.
I am so, so very lucky that violence wasn't a part of my early training. I know that not everyone is as lucky. So much respect for parents who have to fight their own history on top of the way kids push and push and push you. SO MUCH RESPECT.
