two of a kind family

[metaphortunate]

Who was it I was talking to about the luck of having two kids of the same sex?

Because it does feel like an escape. See, if I'd had a boy and a girl, I know in my soul that I would be absolutely convinced at this point that there are real differences between boys and girls, even at the age of like a year, and that I knew because I had seen them.

If the Junebug had been a girl I would be convinced that I had hard evidence that it's true that boy babies cry more than girls. If Rocket had been a girl I would be convinced that, wow: girls really do show so much more affection and emotion than boys. Even at such a young age.

But they're both boys, so what I have hard evidence for is that n=2 doesn't mean shit. Kids vary.

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[hunningham]

Yes. I remember my father saying that as a (very young) father of one child (me) he thought he had it sussed - he understood children. And then my sister was born and she was different! Even as a tiny baby she had a completely different personality, and my father was so shocked and surprised when he realised this.

[metaphortunate]

We say that after we had the Junebug, who ate well and slept well and was basically always happy, we realized we were surprisingly excellent parents. Then we had Rocket, and we realized that what had actually happened was that our first was a surprisingly excellent kid.

[hunningham]

!! Not always the parents who make the difference between one child and another.