As a person who had their kids at under 30, I will tell you that it's an almost exact tradeoff between energy and patience. I am so fucking much smarter than I was 10 years ago.
My paranoia-regret goes the other way. If I had waited until we weren't so poor, until we weren't so young, would we be better parents? Would we have been able to buy a house? Would we be more financially secure now? Would I be able to give my kids things that they haven't gotten because I can't afford it, like piano lessons and vacations and non-shitty cars and non-Target shoes? How am I going to help them through college if I don't have a home to borrow against? blah blah blah.
Which is not to say that we're both doing it wrong. You're doing great, and plugged ducts are vicious no matter how old you are, and oh, god, mastitis...
I just think it's hard not to second-guess yourself when you make huge decisions. And the cultural messages we get are crazy-conflicting and twist us all up.
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My paranoia-regret goes the other way. If I had waited until we weren't so poor, until we weren't so young, would we be better parents? Would we have been able to buy a house? Would we be more financially secure now? Would I be able to give my kids things that they haven't gotten because I can't afford it, like piano lessons and vacations and non-shitty cars and non-Target shoes? How am I going to help them through college if I don't have a home to borrow against? blah blah blah.
Which is not to say that we're both doing it wrong. You're doing great, and plugged ducts are vicious no matter how old you are, and oh, god, mastitis...
I just think it's hard not to second-guess yourself when you make huge decisions. And the cultural messages we get are crazy-conflicting and twist us all up.