I sometimes have that, and it was worse right after the kids were born, but I am just coming to accept that just as some people are motivated by food, I am motivated by praise, even internal praise.

But external praise is better.

One of the ways I can get both is by conforming to femmeness or prettiness standards. I am significantly motivated by the thought of looking prettier.

Also, when I am not working, the patriarchal standards of productivity and feeling like I am not meeting them get into my head and make me even hungrier for affirmation.

Good luck, hon. It sucks, but it gets better.