gender enforcement

[metaphortunate]

Things the baby has ostensibly done recently to cause people to say "Wow, you've really got a boy there, haven't you?"

1) Opened kitchen drawer, flung out piece of tupperware
2) Climbed up slide at playground

Things I believe the baby has ACTUALLY done recently to cause people to say "Wow, you've really got a boy there, haven't you?"

Received a short haircut.

Reason for hypothesis

Previous to the haircut, the most common question upon meeting him was "Boy or girl?"

Alternate hypothesis

Perhaps the haircut has caused him to behave in a more masculine fashion?

Evidence supporting alternate hypothesis

None. Baby behavior has not noticeably changed.

Evidence supporting initial hypothesis

People are extremely good at finding patterns and then noticing evidence to support those patterns and discarding evidence that does not.

Conclusion

GRRARGH PEOPLE WHY YOU GOTTA BE LIKE THAT.

Comments

[(Anonymous)]

I worry about that when it comes to modifying my own gender presentation. :-/

[metaphortunate]

Oh no, I wouldn't. When you're an adult, people take it out on you, not themselves, so it's really up to you if you're okay with that.

[vvvexation.livejournal.com]

Really? I would've thought that the "it" they're taking out on you is still "them being embarrassed," so that there's still the question of how I feel about that on top of the question of whether I want to deal with the fallout.

[metaphortunate]

With kids, I feel like people get put in the position of feeling like they've insulted a kid. Which, whether or not I think it's an insult, clearly makes them feel bad. When I as an adult have caused people to be confused about my own gender, they don't seem to feel bad about themselves, they seem to get angry with me. I feel more okay about deciding that I can accept people being angry with me than about deciding that I can accept making people think they've hurt a kid's or a mama's feelings (note again: kid don't care. Mama don't care. People don't know, though.)