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metaphortunate) wrote2012-02-20 02:00 pm
metaphortunate) wrote2012-02-20 02:00 pm
sleeping & reading
So apparently sleep training is a bad word? J. said that she went to a mom-baby yoga class and during the bit where you go around and say what's up with you, one of the moms said her baby was up all night forever and she was about to die and one of the other moms suggested sleep training and apparently all the other moms would have reacted more positively if she had suggested boiling the baby in oil for twenty minutes before bedtime*. Seems they practically shamed the poor woman out of the room. I did not know this! If I had, I - okay, I probably would still have told people at my moms' group 8-month meetup that we had started sleep training, but at least I would have had the chance to get all defensive about it pre-emptively.
Anyway, we started sleep training the little dude on Friday night. Friday night was horrible. Saturday night was better than it had been before we started. Last night was aces. Although we are doing the Sleepeasy Solution thing where you gradually take down the amount of time he nurses, so I am still nursing him 3x a night, only now I am setting an alarm to do it which is extra annoying. But in less than a week if all goes well it will be 2x a night. And in less than two weeks if all goes well it will be only once, and my current plan is to keep one feed in the middle of the night for a while. So we'll see how it goes!
I read Sacred Games I think because someone recced it tobadgerbag in one of her recs request posts, though I can't find it now. If you learned about India only from this book you would believe that India was a one billion person country made entirely of sadness and gritty misery and corruption and really, really depressing sex. (Well - I would say it's only really depressing for the men in the book about, maybe, um, 65% of the time? But it is clearly depressing for the women and little boys about 98% of the time, and I believe that if sex is depressing for even only one of the parties involved, it is depressing sex. Also, by "depressing" I mostly mean "no one ever considers it rape because somebody is getting paid - although not necessarily the person getting fucked - or else the people are married, but if you happen to believe that rape can happen under those circumstances, this book is about as rapey as Game of Thrones.") But then if you learned about England only from the works of P.D. James you would come away with the impression that England was a tiny country made only of despair and crippling social anxiety and tiny amounts of desultory, depressing, although at least mostly consensual sex. Having been there, that was not the impression I got. What I find interesting is that if you learned about Chicago only from the works of Sara Paretsky you might actually want to visit Chicago some day!
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* Note: don't do this. Your baby will be dangerously undercooked unless you boil it for at least 40 minutes, and 45 is more likely for a baby of about 12 lbs.
Anyway, we started sleep training the little dude on Friday night. Friday night was horrible. Saturday night was better than it had been before we started. Last night was aces. Although we are doing the Sleepeasy Solution thing where you gradually take down the amount of time he nurses, so I am still nursing him 3x a night, only now I am setting an alarm to do it which is extra annoying. But in less than a week if all goes well it will be 2x a night. And in less than two weeks if all goes well it will be only once, and my current plan is to keep one feed in the middle of the night for a while. So we'll see how it goes!
I read Sacred Games I think because someone recced it to
badgerbag in one of her recs request posts, though I can't find it now. If you learned about India only from this book you would believe that India was a one billion person country made entirely of sadness and gritty misery and corruption and really, really depressing sex. (Well - I would say it's only really depressing for the men in the book about, maybe, um, 65% of the time? But it is clearly depressing for the women and little boys about 98% of the time, and I believe that if sex is depressing for even only one of the parties involved, it is depressing sex. Also, by "depressing" I mostly mean "no one ever considers it rape because somebody is getting paid - although not necessarily the person getting fucked - or else the people are married, but if you happen to believe that rape can happen under those circumstances, this book is about as rapey as Game of Thrones.") But then if you learned about England only from the works of P.D. James you would come away with the impression that England was a tiny country made only of despair and crippling social anxiety and tiny amounts of desultory, depressing, although at least mostly consensual sex. Having been there, that was not the impression I got. What I find interesting is that if you learned about Chicago only from the works of Sara Paretsky you might actually want to visit Chicago some day! ------------
* Note: don't do this. Your baby will be dangerously undercooked unless you boil it for at least 40 minutes, and 45 is more likely for a baby of about 12 lbs.