Huh - see, for me, I know exactly what you mean by that glamour thing, but for me it has always been that attitude that everyone says is so important to sexiness, more important than the physical, etc. But like you say, I can't sustain it forever in a long term relationship. So, argh. Frustration. I mean, I like comfort sex a lot! It is lovely! But I am not happy at the idea of giving up all other kinds of sex!