It has been a lifelong job, getting to know and like that person in me who does the REAL deciding. From little things like putting hooks for the jackets at the front door because I know that person will not go hang her jacket in the closet no matter what, to refusing to do weight-loss diets because I know that really pisses her off and makes her feel rebellious (against whom?), I have learned to take her into account when I'm doing things.

A strange source for validation of this approach is the organizing book called Organizing from the Inside Out, which basically encourages us to organize for the way we actually do things, rather than the way we think we should do them. Made me feel all grown-up and shit to realize I've already gotten fairly good at recognizing my actual tendencies and treating them as valid rather than something I can overcome if I try hard enough.