Or not earned anymore. I do have sympathy! I am so close to the Junebug, and I have earned this closeness through an assload of work, and I sympathize with my mother feeling like she and I had this closeness once, which we did, and feeling that we should STILL have it! And you know maybe we should. But ~should~ is useless. Whether or not we should, we DON'T. It is gone. And maybe we could get it back, if we both worked really hard at it. But I know that we can't get there by just acting like we're there already and bulling forward on that basis. It does not work, and I know, because we've been trying that for years and it hasn't worked yet.
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Or not earned anymore. I do have sympathy! I am so close to the Junebug, and I have earned this closeness through an assload of work, and I sympathize with my mother feeling like she and I had this closeness once, which we did, and feeling that we should STILL have it! And you know maybe we should. But ~should~ is useless. Whether or not we should, we DON'T. It is gone. And maybe we could get it back, if we both worked really hard at it. But I know that we can't get there by just acting like we're there already and bulling forward on that basis. It does not work, and I know, because we've been trying that for years and it hasn't worked yet.