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laurashapiro ([personal profile] laurashapiro) wrote in [personal profile] metaphortunate 2013-07-30 08:25 pm (UTC)

Chiming in with everyone to say that if my mother asked me that,* I would go through the roof. In my case, it's because if I answered anything other than an unequivocal "yes", it would mean her posing questions that I don't want to answer about parts of my life and self that I do not want to share with her. Ever.

So then I'd feel like the question is actually about HER. She's asking if I'm happy but she doesn't want to hear anything real, there's only one acceptable answer, and she's asking so that SHE can feel good that her kid is happy. Because my mother is a narcissist and everything is about her.

YMMV.

*Interesting that I cannot imagine my father, or indeed anyone else I know, asking me this question. Is this a question only a mother would ask?

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