I don't remember much happiness during either of my pregnancies. But yeah, as a mother, I want my sons to be happy--I just don't think asking them repeatedly is a good way to either help them achieve it or tell whether they really are happy.
As for coping with the visit: in the first place you will be a NEW MOTHER again. You have full permission to be tired, cranky, to want to spend time alone with each of your children and with both of them, to ask for any kind of behavior that might help you recover from pregnancy and birth as well as figuring out the new relationships in your family. With luck you'll sleep a lot of those 2 weeks (nap when the baby naps was my rule) and Junebug will further develop a close relationship with another adult who can be a resource for him later. I mean, what if he doesn't want to grow up to be like you or anyone else in the household--this way he will have yet another model for how to be a grown up. That's how I always thought about it with my kids.
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As for coping with the visit: in the first place you will be a NEW MOTHER again. You have full permission to be tired, cranky, to want to spend time alone with each of your children and with both of them, to ask for any kind of behavior that might help you recover from pregnancy and birth as well as figuring out the new relationships in your family. With luck you'll sleep a lot of those 2 weeks (nap when the baby naps was my rule) and Junebug will further develop a close relationship with another adult who can be a resource for him later. I mean, what if he doesn't want to grow up to be like you or anyone else in the household--this way he will have yet another model for how to be a grown up. That's how I always thought about it with my kids.