Syncretic insight for the win! Thanks so much for pulling the pieces together.

As it happens, my intro to porn was at age 11 with Story of O. There were pretty good reasons why I was thrilled by the sex and totally squicked by the slavery. Oh! for some fan fiction then. I'm so happy that menarche is often accompanied by fic these days. If for nothing else, the first meatspace sexual encounters will be measured against a standard where we get to enjoy ourselves.