I will freely admit that we had a lot of help simply by virtue of the fact that she was in daycare for large chunks of the day. We noticed she was saying things like, "No no don't," or "I don't like it" at certain stages, and we reinforced their language just because it seemed to work. We used time outs, and still do. Now we use loss of privileges, although for a long time we were hampered by the fact that there was a time delay that would keep her from connecting the behavior to the loss. Now...God, she's weirdly cheerful about delayed punishments. She'll remind me she doesn't get cartoons that day.

Honestly, we're helped by the fact that she's basically a good kid, because she's also very smart and devious. If she really tried to misbehave in ways more serious than using up my trial-size Nivea, we'd be doomed.